FEB 5, 2025
YOUR HAPPINESS IS INSIDE YOU🌟
Being selfish around your own happiness is a good thing. This doesn’t mean that you don’t care about others or are mean or exclusionary. It means that you are putting your own mental health and happiness first in order to be the best version of yourself you can be. Imagine that version showing up each day in life, your partner’s life, your kids’ life, your friends and family life! Imagine the healthy impact that will have on them. Do not be afraid to be happy even if others may not be. Playing small only aids in others staying small. Bringing the best version of yourself to the table will always bring light and hope to others. Yes, there may be people that criticize your warm and happy presence. Consider the possibility that they are unhappy with their life. That is about them, not you. Send them quiet blessings and carry on.
Let’s get super curious as to what makes us happy. This will help see a clearer path to feeling it without a prescribed circumstance for example, “my partner is happy and not stressed today” so I can be happy. Where does your happiness come from? I would encourage you to write down times when you feel happy and the reasons why. If your happiness is tied to someone or something else, write all these little bits that you feel contribute to the feeling. Write them down with a few spaces in between so you can jot down notes afterward on where the joy is actually derived from and not just how it feels. If it lies within you and not as a result of what is happening around you, it will always be yours to access independent of external circumstances. This isn’t to say that circumstances can’t bring you joy, it just means your joy isn’t solely dependent on them.
At first we may think that circumstances are the reasons for our happiness. Yes, there may be elements that add to it but without those elements are we unhappy? Do we rely on others or things to bring us happiness? In a world of countless opportunities to be entertained, distracted, numbed or swept away it has become increasingly hard to keep connected to one’s self. We use these external tools to bring us instant or quick joy. When we find ourselves without these “externals” we may feel nothing or even bored resulting in the never ending chase for joy.
True happiness is inside ourselves, it is not outside of who we are.
Getting to know yourself again and learning what makes you happy, what makes you peaceful, content or juiced can bring lasting happiness and tap into your intrinsic joy. These do not leave you nor do they leave you empty. Your own happiness satisfies and fulfills you. When hard circumstances come your way, your foundation will be authentic and strong. As we all know, life happens and sometimes it’s really hard. Being able to connect and return to a peaceful and joyful state is available when life challenges us.
Find what makes you happy and separate it from the stories that we tell ourselves that are not true. Re-discover you!
You have one go around in life and it is never too late!
With much kindness,
Michelle
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